The more you have, the more you want. It’s so funny, it’s sad. We spend so much time doing the things we love that in the end you don’t even realize how much time you’ve wasted. And then after that, well, it was fun while it lasted. So, it’s sad to think that something that once upon a time gave me peace, energy, love and ultimately life, ends up being my downfall.

Well, that’s one scenario. What if everything really does happen for a reason, and whatever doesn’t kill you really does makes you stronger?

Three things I’ve learned so far in 2016:

  1. Everything (and everyone) has a time limit: Of course, little things, like work, has time limits. What about the things we don’t think about quite as often, such as relationships, or life? Now when I say relationships, I don’t mean the union itself. I mean the very building blocks of that union. It’s only a matter of time before one of you changes. News flash: you don’t see it coming. So what happens when you finally get your shit together and your mate still sticks around, but doesn’t even want to listen to what you have to say?
  2. You can learn from your mistakes, but you’ll never be who you were- ever again: Forgiveness is everything, except what it’s supposed to be. Granted, forgiveness doesn’t cause amnesia, but I thought it meant that I’ve wronged you, you were upset, you eventually changed your attitude regarding said offense, and agreed to move forward with me, all while wishing the best for our future in each other’s lives. Not only does this not turn out to be true, but forgiveness isn’t using said offense as a trump card.
  3. You can’t make people talk to you: Now, I’m already an introvert so I already don’t engage in much conversation, and I’ll listen all day, but when I want to talk, it’s usually because it’s important to me. The problem usually, is when I want to talk, it seems to always be at the wrong time. So what that tells me is there is just a general disinterest in what I have to say, which takes brings me to my next point…
  4. (Bonuslessonthatijustrealizedbydiscussingnumberthree) Bad shit is on the horizon: So, when you fuck up, no one wants to talk, no one wants to listen, and time is running thin, what do you do?

When I was growing up, my Father used to play this cassette tape (I miss the 90s) called ‘Always You’ by James Ingram (it’s amazing how underrated this guy was). I swear, every song on it, I’ve related to at some point in my life. The courting, the hookup, the love, the breakup, the fairytale, death, and even the kids. I won’t go over every song on the album, but there is this one song on it…ok, three songs within the ten tracks that teach me something new every time I get around to listen to it.

Let Me Love You This Way- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pxFZEBoRJxs
Treat Her Right- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=smUxhocqTB8
You Never Know What You Got- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63ZESp-90YQ

And without spending too much time on them, love your woman like the first night you fell in love, and treat her right along the way because you won’t realize what you had until it’s over.

Same can be said both ways, but I can only control me, so here I am.

But this isn’t just about a relationship. Family, friends, co-workers and the like. The year is teaching me to deal with them all, and all the rules apply.

I just want to talk, so put the fucking attitude to the side, stop acting like everything is okay when you and I both know it isn’t okay…

Talk to me so we can work shit out.

Otherwise, you’re leaving.

And I’m going.